A friend had confided in me about her relationship with her special someone has gone topsy-turvy. It happened probably a few months ago. It really made her unhappy. It is because she and her man has already planned to get married early next year and she was supposed to meet her man's mother last month. Then suddenly she heard from his colleague that he has gone back to his home town because his illness has gone bad to worse.
The boyfriend as she told me had suffered a mysterious illness (in other words, he has been 'poisoned'- a very popular activity among Malay community). She told me someone who is very jealous of their relationship has gone to the extreme of 'poisoning' his thoughts of her and such and now even the mentioning of her name he would throw a fit of anger. I felt very sad for her. She's a year older than me and she was so happy at the fact that she was about to get married. I guess she never anticipated obstacles like this might happened.
Listening to her problems, it occurred to me that maybe it's not so much of the 'evil spell' cast on him. I doubt such things still exists in the 21st century. I would not deny it does happened from time to time. It is because such profane act attracts small-minded people to fine the easier way to win someone's heart or even money. To me, the thought of getting married and commitment might have scared him away. Of course it is about time he's getting married but maybe he wasn't ready to commit. And he's finding ways to tell her that he is not ready.
Some men would find even the lousiest excuse they could find to get out the relationship. I still remember a colleague of mine told me, the guy she was dating 4 years ago told her that his grandmother is very particular about their Adat Pepatih. Therefore, marrying a girl outside of the their clan is a big No-no. But later she found out that he's married to a Kelantanese girl just like her. Imagine how angry she was when she found out about that.
I understood the feeling when one is no longer interested. But by making all sorts of nonsense excuses is utterly..nonsense. But then again not all girl understood what you meant. Humans are at times are unpredictable. You'll never know the sweetest person in front of you has a thick,black heart inside. It is because people's actions is beyond of our control. The only person we can control is ourselves. So in this case I guess it's better to just let it go.
I sympathized my friend. I couldn't think any flaws about her that might turn him off. I never know what went wrong at that time when she brought him to see her mother that makes him walk away after that and left her in the dark. I wonder was it really love that drives both of them to get married or was it only an infatuation? Mum always told me not to rush into things whenever I'm attracted to someone. It could be an infatuation. She was right. As for me, only time will tell and I'm not in a hurry.
The boyfriend as she told me had suffered a mysterious illness (in other words, he has been 'poisoned'- a very popular activity among Malay community). She told me someone who is very jealous of their relationship has gone to the extreme of 'poisoning' his thoughts of her and such and now even the mentioning of her name he would throw a fit of anger. I felt very sad for her. She's a year older than me and she was so happy at the fact that she was about to get married. I guess she never anticipated obstacles like this might happened.
Listening to her problems, it occurred to me that maybe it's not so much of the 'evil spell' cast on him. I doubt such things still exists in the 21st century. I would not deny it does happened from time to time. It is because such profane act attracts small-minded people to fine the easier way to win someone's heart or even money. To me, the thought of getting married and commitment might have scared him away. Of course it is about time he's getting married but maybe he wasn't ready to commit. And he's finding ways to tell her that he is not ready.
Some men would find even the lousiest excuse they could find to get out the relationship. I still remember a colleague of mine told me, the guy she was dating 4 years ago told her that his grandmother is very particular about their Adat Pepatih. Therefore, marrying a girl outside of the their clan is a big No-no. But later she found out that he's married to a Kelantanese girl just like her. Imagine how angry she was when she found out about that.
I understood the feeling when one is no longer interested. But by making all sorts of nonsense excuses is utterly..nonsense. But then again not all girl understood what you meant. Humans are at times are unpredictable. You'll never know the sweetest person in front of you has a thick,black heart inside. It is because people's actions is beyond of our control. The only person we can control is ourselves. So in this case I guess it's better to just let it go.
I sympathized my friend. I couldn't think any flaws about her that might turn him off. I never know what went wrong at that time when she brought him to see her mother that makes him walk away after that and left her in the dark. I wonder was it really love that drives both of them to get married or was it only an infatuation? Mum always told me not to rush into things whenever I'm attracted to someone. It could be an infatuation. She was right. As for me, only time will tell and I'm not in a hurry.
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we lived in complicated world, people, situations and faith. Personally I don't mind of getting married in late 20's or early 30's because I'm no hurry.
Dishonest man loves to create excuses but in the same time they "controlling" his GF's life. That's the most irritating thing. The egoism in them never dies.
About the "santau"... yes it's still exist and it's indicate that some human really desperate of owning something that they can't own and dare to crash other people happiness just to fulfill they desire. The Satan won BIG time... God is angry and angrier.. Damn, I hope no hocus-pocus happens to me
There is a million man out there.. we can pick whoever we want because we have the right to pick. God knows what the best for us
yeah,no hurry to get married here too..i wonder why the society makes such a big fuss over women above 25 hasn't not married yet..
don't they understand that being married is A BIG deal? it's not a laughing matter..
no comment about men because i'm too tired to even think about them..XP
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